Diana Kirschner, PhD, has written several books on love and shared some ideas for the guys in their relationships.
A guy with a sensitive side is a guy that women appreciate. Especially if that gal is upset. She needs that arm around her and a tissue.
When it comes to romance, chivalry still has a place. Most women do like the man in her life to take that masculine role.
If a man pays attention to his grooming and clothing, it’s a definite plus with the women. The man needs to find out exactly what turns her on, from those tight jeans to sparkling teeth.
Clever testing by psychologists of women’s subconscious preferences indicates that the guy that wears red, gets the girl. The color makes men seem more powerful, attractive and sexually desirable to women, but it doesn’t make the guy appear nicer or kinder.
Leave her world alone. She is capable of figuring that one out for herself and does not like being told how or why to do something. Listening to a woman does deepen the relationship, though.
When listening, make sure she knows you ARE listening. Don’t just nod. When the gal pauses, she’s usually sending a cue to respond to her in a compassionate and caring way.
Women don’t usually set a specific timeline on when they are ready to invite the guy into her bedroom. Give the relationship at least two months before expecting that sexual arena.
Abiding by that “safe sex” rule is a definite turn-on for that gal. She will feel more protected when the guy makes it clear that it’s a concern to him, too.
If you have that night when you can’t “perform”, it’s important to let her know that it isn’t because she doesn’t turn you on anymore. This is a very touchy subject, but it’s a definite plus to talk about it.
Don’t be shy about talking about what you both would like in bed. The gal usually wants to please her man and will appreciate you asking her what she would really enjoy sexually.
If she mirrors some of your moves, it may be her way of letting you know she wants to put you at ease and that she is charmed by you. This mirroring may be like a barometer of love.
Make sure to tell her over and over how nice she looks and how hot she is. Women love to be told she looks great and you appreciate it. Just let her hear about that new haircut or that sexy new dress.
When she wears your shirt, it’s because she’s attracted to you and likes the scent of your cologne on the shirt. This forms a closeness to you
Talking about the relationship is something most women want. Just an honest, wide-ranging talk can bring the two of you closer.
Face your woman and make eye contact with her when she’s talking. Even looking in her eyes during sex will deepen the relationship outside the bedroom.
The woman will usually let you know when she’s ready to commit. When the subject comes up, be prepared to either step up or step off.
She will always want the romance, no matter if you’ve been together for 20 years or more. She’ll appreciate an intimate dinner, some flowers or some small loving and romantic gesture. Women appreciate the simple gestures.
-Dr Fredda Branyon