They say optimistic people all have one thing in common; they’re always late! Even though it makes me furious every time someone is committed to meet me and yet are ALWAYS late, it actually turns out the late people are actually the best people you will ever know. They are both optimistic and hopeful. Reader’s Digest recently had an article on this subject. They believe they can fit more tasks into a limited amount of time than other people and thrive when they’re multitasking. They are fundamentally hopeful, which to me means they are always upbeat and usually only worry about the big stuff and never the small stuff. I have a friend like that. He frustrates me at always being late but is one of the easiest going people that I know and takes stress with ease.
This type of person sees the future as full of infinite possibilities and those with a tendency for tardiness, like to stop and smell the roses and not plan their life down to the detail. And that in a nutshell is my friend! However, there are two types of lateness:
Two Types Of Late People:
✓ OK lateness is when the late person being late does not negatively affect anyone else. At least things can start on time and proceed as normal with or
without the late person.
✓ Not-OK lateness is when the late person being late DOES negatively affect others. Waiting at the restaurant or an appointment just can’t start without the late person does affect others.
There are two groups of the not-OK people who are late:
✓ Group 1 are those who don’t feel bad about it ✓ Group 2 are those who feel terrible about it and are filled with self-loathing.
People in these not-OK late groups usually end up regularly frustrating others. Punctual people tend to misunderstand Group 2. This group seems in denial about how time works, and they are late because they have a weird aversion to changing circumstances and because they are mad at themselves. They have no trouble making excuses, do they?
Do not excuse these people for their tardiness, as they need to fix it themselves. Just remember it’s not about you. They have problems. Trying to change this group of people is probably only going to frustrate you further. Grin and bear it and just be glad that someone is content to stop and smell the roses. And remember, they are normally happy and optimistic people! Don’t you just wish we all were!
-Dr Fredda Branyon