We get angry and it is only normal. But if you get mad for simple or wrong reasons or if you flare up every minute or every day, something is wrong with you. You are wasting your emotions, you are hurting the people around you, and you are making your world smaller each day. You are also allowing yourself to live a troubled life. It’s time to get your anger under control. Here are useful ways how:
1. Know what triggers your anger.
What makes you angry? Is it waiting for your turn in a long queue in grocery stores? Is it when people cannot follow your instructions? To be able to manage your ire, it is important that you are aware where it is coming from so you can either avoid being in the situation or make yourself prepared. For instance, you can choose to buy grocery items during off-peak hours to stay away from long queues. You can also ask another family member to do it for you.
2. Teach yourself how to cool down.
Soon as you feel that you an inch closer to flaring up, perform some techniques so you can easily chill. These include performing deep breathing, counting from 1 to 10 (repeat your count until you are calm), doing some simple stretches, and massaging your neck and scalp.
3. Seek professional help.
If your anger has become chronic, it is important that you consult with a medical expert so he can offer you therapy. He does not only help you identify the causes of your fury. He also teaches you how to manage it.
4. Find and join community support groups.
Interacting with people who have the same condition as yours can help you picture your true situation, particularly if you are still in denial. Hearing their ordeals and discovering their coping skills can contribute a lot in your improvement. However, there are some cases (such as anger caused by domestic violence) when this is not an appropriate method.
5. Recognize the symptoms.
Some individuals are not able to stop their rage all because they are not aware of the signs that they are set to burst. These symptoms include jaw clenching, tensed muscles, Goosebumps, dizziness, and shaking.
6. Sometimes, it just helps to get away.
No matter how you want to say something to defend yourself or to raise your point, you may still come in a situation when the only solution is to walk away from the scene. It may truly hurt your pride but if this is the only way to stop your outburst, why not? You can just forget about what happen or you can clear things up later when you are already in your good state of mind.
Another way to stop your wrath is to not open your mouth. Close your eyes and tell yourself to loosen up. Keep still and think. Ask yourself: “Is the situation worthy or necessitate anger?” “Will I hurt someone if I say what I want to say?” “What will be the consequences if I do not overcome this ire?” Really, you have to think forward so you can avoid getting yourself in much trouble.